"I've been single for a long time, and while I'd like to share my life with someone, the idea of sharing my space with anyone other than my cat makes me a little antsy. It's not that I don't want a partner - that's different. But the thought of truly merging lives and being part of each other's day-to-day, all day, forever? That feels a little claustrophobic."
"Even celebrities are embracing the LAT trend. Gwyneth Paltrow and Brad Falchuk waited a year after marrying to move in together, with Paltrow crediting the space for keeping mystery alive and "preserving the idea that this person has their own life." Gillian Anderson has said living apart strengthens her relationship. "My partner and I don't live together. If we did, that would be the end of us. It works so well as it is - it feels so special when we do come together,""
"But let's be clear: LAT is different from a LDR (long-distance relationship). "Living apart together is an intentional choice to reside separately, be it different rooms or different houses, while maintaining a chosen, committed relationship. Though it may sound a lot like a long-distance relationship, the key difference is that it is not a result of external influences, and they would live together if they could,""
Personal discomfort with constant cohabitation can make traditional merged living feel claustrophobic. Living apart together (LAT) provides an intentional arrangement in which partners remain committed while residing separately. LAT can preserve personal space, autonomy, and a sense of mystery that can strengthen shared time. High-profile examples include couples who delayed moving in to protect individual lives and maintain specialness. Research and census figures indicate increasing prevalence of separate living among spouses, with millions of Americans in separate quarters. LAT differs from long-distance relationships because LAT represents an intentional choice to live apart rather than a circumstance-driven separation.
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