OK, So There's A Good Reason Why Your 40s Might Bring The Best Sex Of Your Life

Attitudes toward older women have shifted, with aging increasingly viewed as positive rather than a curse, especially for women entering their 40s. Many women report enjoying sex more in their 40s and 50s, even though hormonal changes can reduce lubrication, arousal, and energy. A sexologist says there is no single age when sexuality peaks; peak experience occurs when a person can request the pleasure they want and then lean into it. She links later peaks to growing self-worth and reduced societal shame. Historical research suggested peaks in the 30s, but later researchers question those findings due to different sexual norms and limited premarital sex in the 1950s.

"“One, ask for the pleasure she wants - which will probably be different from her partner's. And two, lean into the pleasure she asked for. When or how a woman can do this depends on her self-worth rather than her age. As women get older, it becomes easier for her to shed all the societal shame, which is why it's thought women peak later in life.”"

"“Instead, she believes a woman hits her sexuality peak when she can do two things. ‘One, ask for the pleasure she wants - which will probably be different from her partner's. And two, lean into the pleasure she asked for. When or how a woman can do this depends on her self-worth rather than her age. As women get older, it becomes easier for her to shed all the societal shame, which is why it's thought women peak later in life.’”"

"“The idea that there's a specific age where women hit their sexuality peak is a bit of a myth, says Trina Read, a sexologist and author. Instead, she believes a woman hits her sexuality peak when she can do two things.”"

"“While there are physical things that can make it less-than-fun (like dropping estrogen that affects vaginal lubrication, arousal, energy, etc.), every week in Scary Mommy Confessions, I am blown away by how many women share that not only do they love being in their 40s, but they're also having the best sex of their life.”"

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