"OK, fine, perhaps not every marriage. Think of it as carving out a bit of me time within a permanent relationship. Would you prefer the term subconsciously uncoupling? No, I absolutely would not. And why not just get divorced? Oh, lots of reasons. Last year, Buzzfeed published a piece titled 25 Unhappily Married People Are Sharing Why They'll Never Get a Divorce, and It's Genuinely Heart-Wrenching, and the reasons included children, illness and financial dependence. Oh boy."
"Don't be downhearted. In a piece for the Cut, Monica Corcoran Harel laid out quiet divorce as a potentially positive move. Really? Sure! She spoke to one woman who absolutely loved going zombie in her marriage. I lowered my overall expectations, which lowered my disappointment in my husband and in myself, the woman said, adding that checking out of her relationship freed me up to learn how to make jewellery too."
Quiet divorce describes couples who emotionally disengage while remaining legally married, often living together but separately. The label echoes generational buzzwords like "quiet quitting," but the behavior itself predates modern terminology. Practical constraints such as children, illness, and financial dependence commonly keep people in emotionally vacant marriages. Some individuals lower expectations and reframe disengagement as a coping strategy that reduces disappointment and creates space for personal projects. Quiet divorce can offer small freedoms and stability, yet it also embodies prolonged unhappiness and avoidance of the practical and emotional challenges of formal separation.
Read at www.theguardian.com
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