"She's being more than childish; her response is unfair and uncaring. She's allowed to make whatever plans she wants for her birthday and everyone deserves to feel special but she's also an adult, and adults understand that sometimes we can't afford to do things we want to do. Adults also understand that special occasions can happen anytime. After the age of, say 16, missing a birthday party is not a reason to sever a friendship."
"She responded by saying she understood because she lives from paycheck to paycheck and also that she considered me a close friend and that she was upset and disappointed I didn't come out for her birthday, and she went on to say that if it hadn't been on her actual birthday she wouldn't have minded as much, which never made any sense to me."
A longtime friend skipped a birthday celebration because they could not afford a $10 cover charge and explained living paycheck to paycheck. The friend initially seemed OK but then became distant. A mutual friend reported that the birthday friend felt upset and disappointed that the person did not attend. The birthday friend acknowledged similar financial constraints yet expressed hurt that the absence occurred on the actual birthday and requested time to process the feelings. The advice stated that the reaction is unfair for an adult, that special occasions can be flexible, and that missing a birthday is not grounds to end a friendship.
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