"Not all BO and sweat are made alike, and if the sweat isn't fresh (and, for example, dries on clothes that aren't removed or, worse, reworn), it can smell sour. But good BO can be so good. Your girlfriend is hardly alone. In fact, there's a gay party in New York called Pheromone that caters to guys who want to stick their noses in each other's pits."
"But getting to be comfortable with that can be a big ask. In the United States, we're generally taught to scrub away our natural odors, and that can ingrain in us a sense that we smell bad. There may be no getting around this for you. With the knowledge that what your girlfriend is asking for is highly common, see if you can just relax and let her do her thing with your post-workout body."
Many people find natural body odor and post-workout sweat sexually appealing. Not all sweat smells the same; fresh sweat can be pleasant while dried or reworn sweat can smell sour. Cultural norms in the United States encourage scrubbing away natural odors and can create internalized insecurity about smelling bad. Partners can negotiate boundaries and low-effort participation, such as allowing a raised arm or enjoying scent at times when deodorant has worn off. If discomfort persists, alternatives include morning or end-of-day intimacy before showering. Testing personal comfort limits and trusting a partner's expressed desire can guide whether to continue post-gym sex.
Read at Slate Magazine
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