Self-invitation anxieties arise from misunderstandings about the organizer's mindset. Experiments show that individuals tend to overestimate the reasons for exclusion when friends make plans without them. According to research, we wrongly assume friends deliberate not to invite us, rather than forget or be preoccupied. This can lead to feelings of insecurity and isolation. Organizers generally prefer inclusivity, often overlooking invites. Understanding this dynamic can help alleviate the anxiety associated with asking to join in social plans.
New research has highlighted that anxieties associated with self-inviting stem from misunderstandings about the organizer's mindset. Often, we believe friends will be irritated when asked to join.
Participants in the study found that when friends made plans without them, they overestimated the likelihood of being excluded and underestimated the desire of others to include them.
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