"When your child hears 100 times a day, again and again and again, what they do well, what they do well becomes the memory that they have in their brain and body, and they do it more because they've had so many experiences of having it reinforced,"
"When your child receives a lot of negative instruction again and again or just not the positive again and again, the thing that grows is the response to that reactivity. Instead of practicing getting body memories of doing things the right way, they practice reacting and being explosive."
"The playing field is not equal. They're going to have more reactive experiences because they're more constantly being told they're doing the wrong thing,"
Delivering frequent, specific praise—around 100 affirmations per day—produces clinically significant behavioral improvements by reinforcing successful actions until they become embodied memories. Repeated positive feedback increases the likelihood that children will repeat constructive behavior through neural and bodily reinforcement. Conversely, frequent negative instruction fosters reactivity, explosive responses, and practiced negative patterns rather than practiced correct actions. Neurodivergent children face a much higher volume of negative directions compared with neurotypical peers, creating an unequal developmental environment that amplifies the need for abundant, positive reinforcement.
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