The article explores the mixed feelings people have towards small talk, where it is seen as unnecessary by some, yet essential for social bonds by others. The author shares a personal anecdote about a frustrating experience waiting to discuss an important matter with a coworker, only to be caught up in mundane exchanges. This highlights the social rituals involved in communication and the varying expectations around them due to factors like neurodivergence and cultural context.
I never know how to answer these questions. With people I am very comfortable with, such as my partner or best friends, I know they are looking for an honest answer.
It felt like I was being forced to participate in a social ritual I just didn't understand, where the urgency I felt was completely overshadowed by the expectation of following these trivial exchanges.
For 30 minutes, I had to endure this back-and-forth of social niceties before I finally, with a deep breath, was able to steer the conversation toward what really mattered.
The last time we met, I had tried skipping the small talk; this time I had learned from experience that this social 'rule' had to be followed.
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