In my case, we started scheduling things because my partner started anti-depressants that killed their sex drive... it felt like I had promised sex and was backing out of that promise.
So it became 'date night' instead... It became easier to actually progress to sex even if I had a bad week.
We had scheduled sex while trying for kids, and the pressure to finish was distinctly unpleasant... I made sure I finished, which couldn't have been as good for her either.
We still have some scheduled sex now, but it's waaayyy different than the scheduled/timed sex of our IVF days... There is no pressure.
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